Former First Lady Michelle Obama has revealed she used IVF to conceive her daughters after suffering a devastating miscarriage – and how she and husband Barack had marriage counseling.
Mrs Obama, 54, told Good Morning America that losing the unborn child 20 years ago left her feeling ‘lost and alone.’
She said: ‘I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them.
‘We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.
‘That’s one of the reasons why I think it’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.’
Mrs Obama, who was a successful lawyer before becoming First Lady in 2008, told host Robin Roberts how she realized around the age of 34 that ‘the biological clock is real,’ and ‘egg production is limited.’
She said it was at that point she and husband Barack realized: ‘We had to do IVF.’
That fertility treatment helped the couple conceive daughters Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17.
Mrs Obama said she wanted to open up about her fertility issues in her new memoir, Becoming, in a bid to help others who have suffered the same setbacks.
She explained: ‘I think it’s the worst thing that we do to each other as women, not share the truth about our bodies and how they work.’
And the campaigner also shared how she and her husband had undergone marriage counseling after their relationship hit a rocky patch.
Mrs Obama said that helped them overcome their problems and keep their relationship going.
She added: ‘Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences.
‘I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them.
‘And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage.
‘And we get help with our marriage when we need it.’
Mrs Obama said that after meeting her husband at a Chicago law firm, she insisted they try to stay friends, despite a strong mutual attraction.
But the pair became a couple after a passionate kiss one summer night, with the former FLOTUS recalling: ‘The feelings came rushing – a toppling blast of lust, gratitude, fulfillment, wonder.’
Becoming also tells of the hurt Mrs Obama felt at being portrayed as an ‘angry black woman’ by critics after her husband decided to run for president.
And she lashed Donald Trump’s unfounded claims that her husband was secretly a foreign-born Muslim as ‘crazy and mean-spirited’ with an undercurrent of ‘bigotry and xenophobia hardly concealed.’
Mrs Obama continued: ‘But it was also dangerous, deliberately meant to stir up the wingnuts and kooks.
‘What if someone with an unstable mind loaded a gun and drove to Washington?
‘What if that person went looking for our girls? Donald Trump, with his loud and reckless innuendos, was putting my family’s safety at risk. And for this, I’d never forgive him.’
On the infamous leaked Access Hollywood tape, where Trump was heard boasting about how he liked to ‘Grab (women) by the pussy,’ Mrs Obama said that her ‘body buzzed with fury after hearing (it).’
She branded the president a ‘mysoginist,’ while calling his rival Hillary Clinton ‘an exceptionally-qualified female candidate.’
And despite repeated calls for her to run as president, Mrs Obama said the experience of campaigning alongside her husband has put her off politics for life.
She explained: ‘If I’d learned anything from the ugliness of the campaign, from the myriad of ways people had sought to write me off as angry or unbecoming, it was that public judgment sweeps in to fill any void. … I knew that I would never allow myself to get that banged up again.
‘I’ve never been a fan of politics, and my experience over the last 10 years has done little to change that. I continue to be put off by the nastiness.’
Michelle Obama’s full interview will air on ABC at 9PM EST Sunday.